Kevin G Cook

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Attempting Something Big

October 30, 2015  |  adoption, blog, featured

It has been 3 months since I poured out my broken heart regarding abortion and the Planned Parenthood atrocities. I ended that post with a bold statement:

If anyone out there reads this and is considering abortion, I will take your baby. My wife and I will gladly take all your babies! I’m completely serious. If you are pregnant and don’t want your child, we will. It’s not a fetus. It’s a blessing. Life matters.

Those words have grown deeper and deeper in our hearts for three months. Not only have we continued to struggle with infertility, but we have also gained a deeper understanding of our identities in Christ, that we too have been adopted as sons and daughters of our Father in heaven.

Asbury Theological Seminary started a campaign this year called Attempt Something Big. It’s all about noticing how God is moving in people, “catching someone acting like Jesus”, and sharing it online. But God put something different on my heart with this slogan, not just to “keep an eye out for Him”, but to trust him, with everything… a challenge in faith to attempt something big.

So after months of prayer and discernment, Nicole and I have chosen to take action. This past week we began looking into the process of adoption. We did some research and reached out to a number of adoption agencies. Though it may be difficult, we are hoping and looking for an opportunity to adopt a baby who would otherwise be aborted.

In the past, we’ve seen people standing outside an abortion clinic in Lexington with signs and information reaching out to people. Two weeks ago, Nicole stopped by when she was in the area and talked to them. She learned that this was the only abortion clinic in Lexington and is open on Thursday and Friday mornings, during which all they do is abortions, both by appointment and walk-in.

So we decided to step out in faith. We made our own signs and this morning we went out there to pray for and reach out to people with God’s love.

My heart is broken, for two reason.

First, the five women who ended up there this morning. The hurt and brokenness in their faces as they either sped by, hid in the back seat of their car, or even mocked us for standing out there. The most heartbreaking moment was watching a teenage girl step out from the backseat of her parents’ black SUV, with no idea of the emotional pain, the regret and shame, or the spiritual darkness which she was entering into, an experience that will surely haunt her for the rest of her life.

Here I found the intersection of righteous anger and merciful compassion.

All I wanted to do was tell her how much God loves her, that Jesus doesn’t hate her, that the guilt and uneasiness she’s feeling is the grace of God, the law of nature and of God written on her heart, crying out inside her saying “something is wrong about this!”

Yet at the same time, just twenty feet away from me stood the second reason for my broken heart: judgment and condemnation. Those people we joined outside of the entrance to the abortion clinic holding large signs with photos of aborted babies, bible verses saying “God hates those who spill innocent blood”, and a loudspeaker with a woman “preaching” that God won’t forgive them for murder and won’t have mercy on the unmerciful… a gospel of fear, of hell for the sinner, of judgment for the wicked.

I have to commend their faithfulness, coming out before 8am every Thursday and Friday morning for the past three years… but that is NOT good news!

Though they have some amazing success stories, and the number of abortions has dropped by about half since they began, I can’t imagine the amount of damage they’ve also done with their message of fear and judgment. Don’t they realize that the love of God is far more powerful than the fear of hell? Don’t they realize that such judgment and fear-mongering is irrelevant to unbelievers?

I wanted to take their loudspeaker and preach LOVE! Preach LIFE, abundant life, and the beauty of God’s GRACE! I wanted to preach HOPE, that God has a plan for them, for their lives, for their babies. I wanted to tell them that nothing can separate them from the love of God in Christ! Neither angels nor demons, neither boyfriends nor parents, neither life nor death; that because God loves them so much, His heart is broken for them in this situation! That he wants to redeem this terrible situation. That he is a God of love and of life. That their brokenness – their despair, their anxiety, their fear, their anger – all their brokenness can be healed through Christ, because he is a God of love and of life!

Ahh!! My heart is broken for the mommas that, for whatever selfish reason, chose death. My heart is broken for those faithful witnesses who still need to know the radical love of God, both for themselves and for these women.

So here we are.

Our hearts are broken with a desire to make an impact. We’re asking God to move. When Dr. Tennent preached on this whole “Attempt Something Big” thing, this is what he said:

Attempt something so big, that unless God intervenes, it is bound to fail.

We’ve seen the statistics. We’ve seen the financial requirements for adoption, the legal requirements, the long and tedious process. And we are absolutely convinced that unless God intervenes, it is bound to fail. So come on Jesus! Make it happen!

Read more and offer support at http://www.kevingcook.com/the-cooks-adoption-story

 

About the Author

Kevin Cook is a 4th year student at Asbury Theological Seminary and an Aspirant for Ordination in the Anglican Church of North America (ACNA). After graduating, Kevin hopes to plant a contemporary three-streams Anglican Church. He and his wife Nicole attend Wilmore Anglican Church in Kentucky.

Kevin holds a Bachelor of Arts in Music and a Master of Business Administration from Florida State University. Kevin enjoys playing music and leading worship, reading fiction and spiritual classics, drinking coffee, and spending time with family and friends.

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19 Comments


  1. My daughter and son in law have 4 boys and would be blessed beyond heavin to adopt a baby girl. They have never looked because they do not think they could ever afford the fees. She is attending college for a teaching degree and he just finished pastoral school and was promoted at his job to a better position. If you have information I could pass along I would gladly do so!
    God Bless!
    Nancy

  2. I saw your post on Facebook & love what you are doing. My husband and I would love to adopt one of the babies that we know your message will save. Prayers for you both as you continue your big journey.

  3. 👏🏻

  4. My wife and I would gladly adopt a baby!

  5. Your strength and courage is inspiring. My husband and I would like to adopt a child. Please let us know where we can get more information about the wonderful thing you have started and how we can connect with someone we can help.

    Jess and Dan

  6. I feel like I can relate to both you and your wife. I’m 22-years-old, but I would love to be a mom. I’ve been together with my now husband for a year and we married in June of this year. Even if were not officially married (going by comments law) we love each other so much and have talked about having a family.we’ve tried for a few months and nothing has happened yet. I feel maybe there could be a medical reason be it him, or myself (me blaming myself more). My depression and anxiety doesn’t help either for us trying. Though Ido think since iI’m still young I can still do things to make our future family better. I am about to start school for graphic designing in November and feel like maybe it could happen after I achieve my life time dream. Then again I feel like if I can’t have a child of our own maybe its a signof adopting. Today I’ve see so many parents neglect their children, yelling, hitting, or whatever happens behind closed doors. It makes me angry and sad that those people can have a child and make it so easy, but couples we ho want children work so hard , but the time goes on forever.I feel if that’s my calling I could not only have the child I’ve always wanted, but I can change what life they’ve had and make things better. I support what you’re doing and it makes me feel more confident that people like you feel the same way.

  7. I seen ur post on fb and me and my husband have been through the same thing including other things. We have already tried to adopt but it fell through.. Me and my husband. Would love the opportunity to adopt a baby.. It bothers me that I see so many parents just putting there kids on other people while they party or the kids being abused.. I have pcos and no luck having our own and it hurts us seeing them kids like that and knowing they should have a better home a loving place..yall are my heroes and keep up the great work.

    Aurora & bobby hill

  8. We are another hopeful couple that has been waiting for a match with a birthmother! 🙂

  9. We would also be more than excited to adopt any baby. I am a Diabetic and have been told it’s in my best interest not to carry another baby but I WANT ANOTHER BABY. Please if any mom’s are from Oklahoma and are think about adoption we will take your babies!

  10. This blog is great! My husband and I have been through very similar things. We have had two miscarriages and haven’t had much luck getting pregnant. Biological children are not off the table for us, but it hasn’t happened yet. We are adopting our first child through foster care next week! He is 10 years old, we have had him for a year. We are looking to see where to go next with our next child because our 10 year old is “getting lonely” :)! I would love more information about the process of pairing birth moms with adoptive families.

  11. Never forget the children in orphanages who are waiting for a family to call their own. Some have been without a mother and fathers love for all or most of their lives.

  12. My husband and I would gladly adopt a baby or child…….we also know a few others who are trying and have yet to conceive. Good luck and if you need more parents we would gladly add them to our family!

  13. This touches my heart. ❤️ My husband and I have also rode on the rough path of infterility for the past 3.5 years. After seeing an inftertiltiy doctor and two failed attempts at embryo adoption, we still have empty arms and hearts. We had always considered adoption, but drug our feet due to the costs associated with it. Finally after getting tired of the tears and the empty feeling, we decided to take a leap of faith and jump head first into adoption. In the last few short months, people have been so generous that we have been able to raise enough money to complete our home study! We have no idea of where the funds are going to come from to complete the next step in our journey, but it only takes a mustard seed of faith, right? 😊

  14. My husband I adopted 2 babies back in the 1960s. We adopted because we wanted a family. I can understand why an infertile couple would want to adopt one or more babies. That is not necessarily some great act of charity. Are you going to adopt all babies, regardless of health or race? Are you going to cover doctor and hospital bills for prenatal and delivery when necessary? Also, please tell me what you think should be done about the children in foster care who need forever homes.

    • Yes it is part of the adoption process to pay for medical expenses, and we don’t care about the baby’s race. We’re in discussion with a mother of a biracial baby, and another who is Asian. Children in foster care need parents too; they are both huge issues facing our generation. We’re not trying to solve all of the world’s problems, just trying to do one small thing that two small people can do with a big God.

  15. My hubby and I would love to adopt a child as well. We’ve been married 14 years and haven’t been able to have children. We have just begun the long, tedious process of adoption. We know God has a child for us and are excited to see how our story unfolds!

  16. I love this so much my husband and have adopted a son and are in the adoption process again and people should know that most of the women who concider abortion need support and love shown to them .

  17. Dear Kevin & Nicole,

    I read your blog because I was VERY curious and I feel for you. For whatever reason you haven’t been able to conceive children and my heart goes out to you both. I”m a single 37 year old woman who wants a husband and children in the worst way, and yet I must remain patient.

    I also wanted to say thank you. I’m glad that you have signs that are kind, and loving and don’t condemn people for their decisions. The reason I say this is because I have two friends who had abortions. They were 9 weeks along and 16 weeks along. They both had to go to clinics where they would be properly attended to and the reason they were there was because the baby at 9 weeks no longer had a heart beat and the baby at 16 weeks didn’t have a skull. My one friend walked in feeling hurt because no one outside was kind, they just judged without knowing the story. My other friend barked at the person who told her she was going to hell. She literally turned to the man and said “my baby doesn’t have a skull now what!”

    On behalf of my friends I wanted to tell you and your wife that I hope you continue your message of love and non-judgement, and I pray that you get the children you’ve been wanting.

    All the best to you!

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